More and more I see you can only take what you hear about someone else on here with a grain of salt. I've seen things written about me that were not true,I've seen things written about someone else and a situation I knew both sides and both people and have seen how both bend the truth to fit their story and make them to be the victim. I've seen it in a personal friend of my daughters and a friend of her friend's that has a xanga. She would write something about my daughters friend and totally misrepresent her and people would believe her without even knowing my daughters friend.

I've seen someone just recently attack me, stretching the truth and making me look like some terrible husband and a miserable Christian and people believing this person even though they didn't know me.

I've seen another friend on here attacked with harshness as a Christian.He was cursed and condemed for stepping a little off the path instead of being shown love and true concern. ILL was said of this friend and people believed what was said without knowing all the facts.

I was attacked for making someone feel uncomfortable as a friend when they made me feel uncomfortable with something they did,but I knew what they meant by what they said and did and this person knew what I meant by our friendship but still made me out to be a stalker of some sort. I do not know if what she and her dad have told others if others believe them for everything they say happened just as they said.

I can tell you in so many cases I've seen, people jump on the bandwagon to tear someone up just from what someone else says not even knowing that person or anything about the situation. Why do people do that? Is cutting someone down THAT  important that you don't care if the story is true or not, you just want the chance to cut someone down and believe they are that bad so you can feel better about yourself?

There are always 3 sides to every story....EVERY story. Your side,my side and the truth. At 51 years old, I have seen this saying true in every arguement. Everyone tells the story to make themselves look better or like the victim. I would love to share the whole story of something that just happened to me that hurt deeply but I'll not get into it. It doesn't matter now,whats done is done.All I ask is that before you go attacking and agreeing with something awful that someone says another person did, ALWAYS find that person that is being slandered and hear their story before you heap your hot coals into the story. Everyone makes mistakes,you may be the next one to be slandered for something you are innocent of and see first hand how it feels. A few who may know me may know of these things I speak of, if you do,please don't mention names, thats not what this is about,its about treating others with respect, especially when you know nothing of the situation, much less anything about those involved.